The Perception Gap

One of the real issues that I have encountered as a parent is the confrontation of life not being like the cover of Parenting Magazine. Every parent strives to make a world for thier children that reproduces perfection. There’s a differnce in perception of how life should be and the reality that we experience. Especially […]

4 Lessons I’ve Learned Coaching my Son’s T-Ball Team

Winning is Great, but always focus on the players We don’t keep score in T-Ball. Every inning each team bats all the way through the lineup scoring as many runs as they can regardless of how many outs the defense accrues. As a competitive natured person I always kept a running total of “outs” in […]

Masculinity; the Non-Toxic kind

I wrestle with my boys, I encourage them when they show me their muscles, when they eat well I tell them they’ll grow big and strong like the hulk. Actions that, to some, are now deem inappropriate behavior for fathers raising sons. With the APA’s newest report Guidelines for Psychological Practice for Boys and Men, […]

What is the Status Quo of Parenting? Why do I feel like I’m Failing?

Am I doing any of this right? Sometimes… I feel like a failure. Is it imagined or is there something here? Bills get higher each week, external pressures increase, can’t seem to keep the house clean, trouble keeping temper in check, timelines/schedules/budgets get missed, I just can’t keep up. Are my worries relevant or presumed? I wonder […]

Who are you?

I am desire. The desire to become something different, to attain a new identity, is something that is unique to humans; it separates us from any other species. In the animal world, animals just exist. They do not strive for a better life. Animals do not aspire to do or be more. Animals are merely […]

Social media masks, anxiety, insecurity, and unlocking true potential.

Say you were to die right after you read this article. Instantly, you’re standing face to face with yourself, like a full body mirror. The image in the mirror is the version of yourself that lived your 100% potential. The you that worked with extreme ethic, took every opportunity, strove for maximum effort, never settled […]

Ditch the natural decline; a different philosophy on aging and disposition.

I debated a unique thought process with a mentor of mine recently. It forced us to challenge our philosophy regarding personal development and age. The idea that with age, we mature and increase wisdom is commonly accepted. As much as I agree with that logic, is progression similarly applicable in manners of human behavior, personality […]

Two steps forward and one step back; take advantage of the one step back.

I attended a firefighting conference this past weekend. During a portion of the keynote presentation, the speaker discussed values. He related values to a compass noting how our values direct the path in our lives and jobs just as a compass directs our physical path across terrain. As captivating as his lecture truly was, for […]

Authenticity of Redeeming Failure

I didn’t just pick a negative stereotype of parenting and try to revert it. I have a story that some people relate to and others that want to inquire about. So I created this platform. I’m not a family counselor, I have no education in therapy, I don’t consider myself a mentor; I’m really not […]

Divorce and Parenting: When my kids hold me accountable.

There are a lot of everyday experiences in my children’s life that I don’t get to regularly participate. Little landmarks that I don’t get to witness. Often when dealing with the sadness of this reality, I mentally lecture myself that this is all byproduct of divorce. Consequence of failed marriage when children are involved. More […]